In The Face of Disappointments

Disappointment. It is something we all have experience with. From when you were young to this very day. From the day you didn’t receive the Christmas present you wanted when you were a kid, to the day when you didn’t get that job you desired, or that holiday, or that crush you wanted to like you back. Our hopes and plans don’t always turn out the way we wanted. We are all constantly subjected to disappointments of unmet desires.

Disappointment is a symptom of when we fill unsatisfied or unfulfilled in ourselves or others. We all have expectations of ourselves and the world around us. We subconsciously and consciously set dreams and goals to what we want to achieve. When we were kids, we wanted to be that movie star, or that singer, basketball player or that chef we see on TV. And for many us, these dreams were never fulfilled. As we grew older, we decided to set more realistic goals such as the university to attend, the major to do, the sport to play or the girl to marry. We become more and more aware of our opportunities and abilities. We understand our own strengths and weaknesses, we realized that we don’t have the speed or the height to become that basketball player we wanted to be, or the voice to become that singer or the cooking ability to be that chef. We start to build our expectations around the skills and abilities we possess. However, despite this, we are still constantly subjected to the pain of disappointment. Why is that?

It’s because you are the not the architect. Your plan and your roadmap on earth are already been set and implemented. You have no control or authority over what will occur. Think about your current situation in life; where you are living, the friendship you have, the study or the job you are currently in. How much of this was out of your control and you had no jurisdiction over? Of course, we can still set our own goals and ambitions, but if it is not based or centered around what the Creator has planned for us. We will be constantly subjected to disappointment.

I know what you are saying “then I will face disappointment throughout my entire life.” No that is not true. If we start to center our goals and expectations around the plan that has already been set for us, then we will no longer be subjected to disappointment. But how can you trust this plan? Surely you feel more qualified to design your own plans. No, if we truly understand who our Creator is, the person who builds this Earth and all its beauties, the person who engineered us when we were in our mother’s wound and the architect that designed a master plan that sends His son to die for us; a bunch of ungrateful and undeserving sinners, so that we can be saved and under His loving care. He is the person that knows you inside and out, He knows things about you that you don’t even know yourself; He knows how fast you can run, how fast you can think, He knows how fast you can eat. More importantly, He knows your blueprint and your design; He knows what you are engineered to be, the expectations and goal you are to achieve and fulfill. 

If you can just fall back on His plan for you, and trust in it, you will be able to subdue and neglect the pain of disappointment in your life. Additionally, you will be able to replace this pain with joy; the joy of knowing that everything that is occurring is under His plan for you. The perfect plan.

I will end this blog with Psalm 127:

A song of ascents. Of Solomon.

¹ Unless the Lord builds the house,
    the builders labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
    the guards stand watch in vain.
² In vain you rise early
    and stay up late,
toiling for food to eat—
    for he grants sleep to^[a] those he loves.

³ Children are a heritage from the Lord,
    offspring a reward from him.
⁴ Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
    are children born in one’s youth.
⁵ Blessed is the man
    whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
    when they contend with their opponents in court.